Like most parents… before we knew the gender during pregnancy, we both said we would be happy with either a boy or a girl.
As most fathers-to-be feared, I figured that we were going to have a girl as payback for the years that I was dating etc (trust me this is the fear of most dads-to be). My fear wasn’t that rational really as I didn’t know how to take care of a child at all, but you pick it up very quickly once you bring that baby home and you have no choice but to care for him/her.
I was scared of the female emotion that I may not be able to connect with, that a daughter may not share my interests in being outside, working on jeeps, camping, sports, math/science, taking things apart and putting them back together, getting dirty etc. (yes most of these could be stereotypes) I think most of all I was scared of the tween to teenage years and the difference of plumbing between boys and girls. Changing diapers was scary enough before I started doing it 10 times a day, but the thought of dealing with female anatomy made me that much more skittish.
Now, our son may not share any of my interests, only time will tell, but I feel like having a boy first has made fatherhood easier on me. I have been given confidence that I can do it, do it well, and a happy child will result. We laugh and play all day, I already know I am not a push-over Dad and will be both the loving and caring parent but also the stern and strict parent when I need to.
While at this stage my wife and I have no plans to have any more children, I know that I now could have a daughter and not be so scared about it. If it were to happen I may have to clench my teeth during the tween and teen years lest I explode, but I’d survive.