That's right, a guest post... my very first and it is courtesy of my wife.
She sent this letter to her sister who was expecting a little girl. She wanted to share all of the knowledge and information she had gained during the first few months of staying home with Thomas after he was born.
Hoping to pass this information on to her sister, she shared this with me months later so I could share this with all of you.
Things I want my sister to know:
- Treasure every moment - even when she is screaming and you are at your end of the rope. Take a second to know it will pass, and she may just start to giggle and smile at the end.
- Burp cloths are your best friend. Heck we have burp blankets - sometimes it takes a blanket to get it all!!
- Yes you will be peed, pooped and spit-up on. Know that it will all wash off and your clothes, blankets, couch - they are all cleanable!!
- A sleeping baby is one of the most precious things - remember to wake her gently - I whisper in Thomas' ear that his mommy is here and waking him up to ...
- The Internet can be your best friend and worst enemy - if what you are reading bothers you, put it down and go back to your baby, chances are that whatever is happening today will be totally different tomorrow and different the next day and the next...
- Even though you may know everything about your baby girl - how she likes to be held, what certain cries mean, etc - make sure that her dad spends just as much time with her. An early bond will make it easier for him as well.
- Teach each other - his way may just be better than yours. Ask your friends with kids the best places to change the baby when your out. For example some Babies R Us have mommy rooms where you can breast feed her while you are out. Another cool thing I found was a family restroom at the mall which had a changing table, chair to sit and feed, a little kid potty, and an adult size potty. I was amazed to see a little kid potty at the mall!!Remember your baby and her needs come first. While feeding Thomas in one of these cool family bathrooms - a little girl kept checking the door to see if it was locked. I was thinking to myself that I have to hurry to finish feeding Thomas so someone else can get in. But then I thought to myself - no way! This is a family bathroom and the people outside should understand what is happening and teach their own kids some manners!!
- Get out of the house!! Go for a walk, go get the mail everyday, have someone go with you the first few times to get the hang of things and then venture out on your own with your lil one
- Sleep when the baby sleeps. I know everyone says this but actually do it. Your body and mind will thank you for it later. Even just 15 minutes will feel like an hour!
- Create a space for you and the baby in a comfortable place outside of the bedroom. By this I mean - venture out of the bedroom with your little girl every day. This creates routine for her and helps you to regain some normalcy once you are up for it. Our living room is my little sanctuary with changing station, clothes, blankets, spit-up cloths, and the tv. Yes - the tv will become a companion those first few days/weeks at home.
- Don't always follow what the "experts" are telling you. For example, my Breastfeeding technique would kill a lactation consultant to see. But it works the best for Thomas and a happy baby is all that counts!!
Please share any other information that you think would benefit an expecting mom or new mom (or dad!), hopefully this page will help someone out at some point!
(I’d just like to add that it is obvious my wife did an amazing job because Thomas is an amazing child!)